Re: Need Advice on reconnecting with Wife
Ok, so how do you maintain the long term relationships vs the get them in the door and sell them and move on. I had a golden record at keeping and growing accounts. It wasn't because I am a fast talker I am not. It wasn't my company could do things others did not. Instead I focused on the what got the client though the day without heart burn and people piling on. I always strived to make my contact promotable. I wanted to be the file and forget guy. Give me the work it showed up done on schedule. When a problem occured I aiways had three solutions for it to discuss with them. I educated them about what went into the project on my end. Most of all I knew the expression the customer is aiways right is wrong. My job was to make the customer aiways right.
Think of these traits in terms of relationships overall. See how many apply to your marriage. See what you did well in these terms, and what you dud not. Accept this fact do not repeat the same mistakes either with a new marriage or reconcilation. Grow. don't hesitate to do little thoughful things. Your going out of the office, someone is complaing about a head ache or sore muscle, you stop on the way back at a drug store and pick up a small package of aspirin, or Ben gay and leave it on their desk without a word. This shows awarness and concern. Not a huge act but it hits home.
Finally read Not Just Friends it discusses healthy boundaries. Also read 7 habits of successful people. Both will impact both you personal and professional life. When you get PM and want them I will share the company I worked for, the clients I develop and how I did it. This cared over into my personal life in one form or another.
One note, if your job was one and done many of the skills needed are very different and when used I personal relationships always fail. But hey you can pick up woman quickly with them.
How to deal with an unrepentant spouse: an Irish person can tell a person to go to hell and have them so excited at the prospect they demand to know when, where the train is leaving and how to get a ticket. Then offer them a loan to get the ticket and a ride to the train station. Be Irish