Re: Need Advice on reconnecting with Wife
And you own up to that. For many, when one owns up to their misgivings, etc. it opens up the conversation and course to repair/correct what went wrong. Lay it all out of the table.
In no uncertain terms and point blank I told my W I was a complete idiot for not listening and acknowledging what she was saying. In now fully understanding the issue I told my W I will turn it around and be the H she hoped(prayed) for all those years. With my actions I was able to turn the marriage around and be all that my W hoped I would be.
I would also add, that when you own up to it, already have some clear ideas in mind of what action steps you plan on taking to work on fixing the marriage--and this plan needs to incorporate making sure that her needs in the relationship are being met. Be open to her suggestions, and finalize a plan together, and then actually DO it. If you "own up to it" but then don't have a plan [which addresses her needs], and if you don't follow through, she'll think that the "owning up" was just an act and didn't mean anything, and that you didn't really think about it, and that you were just owning up because it's what she wanted to hear, and that you weren't really listening to her.
Words + Actions. You've gotta have both.
(And women really like a man with a plan. Most women WANT their hubby to take on a leadership role in the relationship, which many men fail at, sadly.)
~Happily un-married since December 9, 2013~
Last edited by FeministInPink; 01-19-2017 at 01:14 PM.