Yes. I'm curious what makes women leave all of a sudden.
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I didnt leave all of a sudden.
He ignored me. He never treated me like a partner, or an important part of his life... I was barely an afterthought. There was no affection from him. He was very selfish and self absorbed. He was anti social, never wanted to go out and do anything, or spend time with other people, not even his own family. I went to most of my family's functions alone. He had a tendency to drink too much, by himself. He had anger issues. (he shoved me down one time, over a chair) He had depression that he would not address. He brought home his work problems, and would complain and b!tch constantly about it. He stopped caring about his appearance, and would come to bed in his dirty work clothes, and drunk at least twice a week. We had a baby daughter, and he barely had anything to do with her, I was raising her basically by myself.
I decided I was never having sex with him again, and I didnt... we hadnt been intimate for two years when I left. I couldnt do it, he disgusted me. Sex was never any fun, he was clear that it was something I was expected to and obligated to provide, and would get very angry when I would turn it down. Add to that ZERO affection shown to me otherwise, the drunkeness, and the grossness of him being dirty from work....ugh. I think at that time, it didnt occur to me that my marriage was over, stupid as that may sound.
I tried to get him to go to marriage counseling and he would not go, would tell me that things "arent that bad", and that I was the one with the problem. Well, when one partner thinks things ARE that bad, then they ARE. He didnt care that I wasnt happy, he made that very clear. My concerns and feelings were completely dismissed, and I basically just existed in the house with him.