Hubby and I have made the first appointment with the mediator - she is considered the best one in our area and so we couldn't get on her calendar until early March. We thought we'd be able to see her in early February, but then a calendar conflict arose and now we'll wait until March. She has confirmed the first meeting will solely be about building a parenting plan and how to tell the kids and our extended families.
Between now and that appointment, we're going to each rent storage units and begin going through the garage/attic together, dividing stuff and getting rid of anything neither of us wants, as well as making a list of all the furniture in the house and who gets what. We won't be able to start doing that until mid-February, but if we dedicate two full Saturdays to it, we should be able to get a lot done. The kids will not suspect anything since we've been talking about going through the garage/attic for a long time.
We've also made the complete list of all the repairs/cleanups needed around the house and will begin those immediately rather than wait - starting with all the stuff that we know we can do ourselves.
If I may be so Bold
. See what I bolded above? All those words. The specific usages.
You said that no man [going forward] will be in your life. That is going backwards....IMHO.
Soon, there will be no more need for those words above that are bolded.
Soon your bed will be empty and cold.
Soon your kitchen table will be empty....on those days when he has the little darlings.
Soon his favorite chair in the living room will be empty.
Soon his kitchen chair will be empty.
Soon your arms will be empty.
Soon your lips will remain un-kissed.
Soon that comfortable place between your thighs will be empty.
All those words, the We's, Us's, Hubby's will be gone.
Soon you will be empty and all alone..... Once the children leave the nest
Most people cannot run on Empty. How can you?
I give you a two years before an irresistible "we" snuggles up to your face.