13 years marriage 4 kids help
Its becoming really difficult now, its getting worse, i wish i could talk to someone about whats going on. I blame myself totally. We have 4 small kids and 2 very small under 4 which are very difficult to manage. I think since they were born its just driven a wedge between us.
whenever she speaks its like my skin crawls,
shes always shouting at the kids, stop making a mess, shes always screetching and screaming and i cant hear it anymore
we go through long periods where we dont speak face to face just commincate via whatsapp i stay in one room she stays in another.
we constantly fight over silly things, its like she mothers me, why havent you done this, she speaks in a stern tone like shes a school teacher. admitadly im lazy sometimes, she has to ask me 10 times to do things, but cmon what guy runs and jumps like a obedient dog ill do it when im ready. i really dont like her anymore, i feel a lot of resentment and hatred. we just dont get on. its the miserable fire breathing dragon side of her that i loathe,
i feel so damn bitter inside, i feel its way beyond fixing, she wants romance and kisses etc i still want sex but she never wants it but she says she wants romance im like i cant be bothered i dont want to romance her.
ive also played the field with a much younger women in early 20s im 38, and i know thats terrible but ive been doing this for past 3 years now since younger babies were born. i feel im comparing them to her ive just ruined everything. but i cant leave as i have kids they need me, soon the side relationship will be over. it was fun and the sex was amazing but i cant leave them for her over lust.
my question is to men, after such a breakdown can things get better can this be mended.