Re: Is there any hope when trust is gone?
I would say there is very little hope.
He is most likely so entrenched/addicted to his online activities he will never fully give them up.
For most the effort to meet people online to get one of them to bring them to the USA/Canada/UK is nearly an all encompassing one. Due to my business I know this first hand, a zillion times over. Daily I get at least 10 FB requests and the tactics are rarely varied much, but frankly it's exhausting. This was only superseded by when I finally WAS single, the dating websites being swamped with the same people.
I AM NOT SAYING THERE ARENT GOOD PEOPLE IN OTHER COUNTRIES, OR THAT LOVE CANT BE FOUND.
I'm merely pointing out that this is practically a full time job for many of these men (and women). They are usually dating/talking to/ in "love" with tons of women at the same time. The first one to bring them to the USA where the streets are paved with gold is who they come too. They target women older than themselves, generally less attractive, and with self confidence issues.
Now, here you sit, with him having had who knows how many emotional affairs on you, and if he is posting for local hookups on Craigslist or wherever... you better believe he has had plenty of physical affairs too. So go get tested immediately for STDs. I get it, I get it, your embarrassed to be a second time divorcee and for all your friends and family who warned you not to marry this guy to be right. Get over it. They WERE right. Learn from your mistakes. Date only local men next time. Cut your losses immediately and kick him out. Let him go to his new job and plethora of women. Barf. Sorry your here, but you are. So fix it.