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post #16 of 22 (permalink) Old 01-31-2017, 05:39 AM
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Just how is being married to an habitual liar helping your trust issues?

He does not love you, but is only using you to support his own agenda!

End this charade of a relationship now, for your own peace of mind!

There are far too many good and decent men who would love you for who you truly are! He, unfortunately, is not one of them!



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Time and time again, he's proven to you that he's a liar. His lies go much further than what you are aware of. It's VERY likely that there's more you are not aware of. Time to end it.

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I would say there is very little hope.

He is most likely so entrenched/addicted to his online activities he will never fully give them up.
For most the effort to meet people online to get one of them to bring them to the USA/Canada/UK is nearly an all encompassing one. Due to my business I know this first hand, a zillion times over. Daily I get at least 10 FB requests and the tactics are rarely varied much, but frankly it's exhausting. This was only superseded by when I finally WAS single, the dating websites being swamped with the same people.

I AM NOT SAYING THERE ARENT GOOD PEOPLE IN OTHER COUNTRIES, OR THAT LOVE CANT BE FOUND.

I'm merely pointing out that this is practically a full time job for many of these men (and women). They are usually dating/talking to/ in "love" with tons of women at the same time. The first one to bring them to the USA where the streets are paved with gold is who they come too. They target women older than themselves, generally less attractive, and with self confidence issues.

Now, here you sit, with him having had who knows how many emotional affairs on you, and if he is posting for local hookups on Craigslist or wherever... you better believe he has had plenty of physical affairs too. So go get tested immediately for STDs. I get it, I get it, your embarrassed to be a second time divorcee and for all your friends and family who warned you not to marry this guy to be right. Get over it. They WERE right. Learn from your mistakes. Date only local men next time. Cut your losses immediately and kick him out. Let him go to his new job and plethora of women. Barf. Sorry your here, but you are. So fix it.

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What would he be using me for? He works and pays his own bills and he does a lot for himself.
"For himself" is tatooed on his hairy chest. And therein is your dilemma.....here. Here, under his hair atop his head.

The Road to Hell is paved with Good Intentions. You have paved. And he, that is he, peels his tires on those red bricks, those that carry your marriage traffic.

I deleted the rest of this responding post. My words started to set the screen afire.

This....This is the nub of the stick that pokes me in the eye when the light of day energizes my optic nerve....SunCMars.... The Allegory of the Cave--> On this, I did a '180' and stepped out.

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Trust and respect are the 2 most important intangible assets of a relationship. without one or the other its hopeless.
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He is a liar and a cheater, and you need to get rid of him. If you stay in this, then THIS is what you will have to deal with for the next 40 years of your life.

Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.


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What would he be using me for? He works and pays his own bills and he does a lot for himself.
Why would he use you?

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