Trying to work on me
I had my first appointment with a therapist late last week, and was able to air a lot of thoughts to her. Some things that she mentioned me doing are journaling, and getting some thoughts down on paper so they aren't all in my head. Maybe I'll be able to see a clear path by doing this. She also recommended a book: "Feeling Good Together" by David D. Burns, MD. Has anyone read this? Lo and behold, I checked our bookshelf, and H bought this a few years ago, so we have a hard copy, but I downloaded the eBook copy so I can read subtly it on my lunch breaks at work.
She also said that I might want to consider writing H a letter outlining some things that I would like his thoughts on, and why. I'm not sure how to do this, or even what I'd say, but the book does have a marriage satisfaction survey that I'd like us to take. I took a couple online this morning, and boy, the results really weren't good.
My next appointment is later this month. She also suggested that I bring him in for couples counseling at some point. And get this, H usually isn't home until 6pm or later, and so I scheduled my appointment to end at 4:30; got home just after 5pm. H was already home, and asked if I had anything to do after work that night. Yeah, there goes my stealthiness at trying to help myself!