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post #46 of 57 (permalink) Old 02-24-2017, 11:13 AM Thread Starter
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Quick update...

I filed yesterday and my wife will be served in the next week or two.

Now that the initial shock has worn off, she's doing well and being reasonable. I'm hoping to work out a deal with her and move on gracefully.

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Just get your business done. Don't talk to her unless it's to discuss logistics. Don't give away what you're doing, just do it. Don't cut off something unexpected she uses without informing her, like a debit/credit card. That'd not be a nice move. Seems like you're being very smart. Keep it up!

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Just get your business done. Don't talk to her unless it's to discuss logistics. Don't give away what you're doing, just do it. Don't cut off something unexpected she uses without informing her, like a debit/credit card. That'd not be a nice move. Seems like you're being very smart. Keep it up!
Yep, on her request, I moved my half of our savings back into our joint account since it's still considered marital funds at this point. Even so, she got the message that I'm serious.

We've already had some discussions on how to divide everything and we are on the same page for the most part. I told her to put her request in writing and I'll review it. I believe we are both hoping to do this "uncontested". We shall see.
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My wife just got served at home 3 hours ago. She knew it was coming.

Making progress! Feels great.
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post #50 of 57 (permalink) Old 03-06-2017, 08:47 PM
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Good for you, glad you are moving forward with a better life for yourself.

Keep hangin in there.



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How are things going Edward? You have done the right thing. YOur wife needs serious therapy.
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How are things going Edward? You have done the right thing. YOur wife needs serious therapy.
Thank you for asking! I really do appreciate it.

My wife was served her divorce papers exactly 1 week ago, and since then it's been somewhat of a roller coaster ride. Some days she is very reasonable, and others, she is very volatile and difficult to communicate with.

I offered her our townhouse so she could continue living here with the dogs, but she flatly refused. She's moving in with her mom and unmarried sister at her mom's house.

I then offered to take the townhouse and buy her out of her half of the equity and she's reluctantly agreeing. She's also trying to negotiate with me to get some sort of maintenance payout since we have a significant salary difference now and she contributed early in our marriage for a down payment on our home. I'll be generous and make her a nice offer. If she doesn't take it, I'll be happy to let a judge decide and it probably won't look good for her since she's got 2 Master's degrees and one in a "hot" field.

Well, she demanded I get an appraisal on our home and when it came back lower than she wanted, she went ballistic last night and started taking it out on me (what's new!). This started a big rant about how the "appraiser is an idiot" and other ridiculous statements I'm accustomed to.

Our court date is April 24th and I'm hoping we can come to an agreement by then and settle this quickly.

She seems to be reasonable when speaking about how to share visitation with our dogs, but honestly, I can't wait to get away from her.

That's my update. I've been in a pretty good mood lately knowing that my future looks hopeful.
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Just think one day the only way she will talk to you is via the phone if that, and you can always hang up on her and get back to life.
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Buy some nice ear plugs.

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Just think one day the only way she will talk to you is via the phone if that, and you can always hang up on her and get back to life.
As long as our dogs are alive, I'll need to stay in contact with her. That's fine compared to what I have to deal with currently.


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post #56 of 57 (permalink) Old 05-25-2017, 12:25 PM Thread Starter
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Hi all,

Quick update on my situation...

Went to court this morning and the divorce is finalized.

Thanks again for all the support.
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Congratulations! Onward and upward!

Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.


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