Re: Feel like it's all crumbling around me.
Thanks so much for responses, it's odd to feel words from strangers on the internet can be such a support.
I have confronted her this afternoon, about how she is feeling and did she want to discuss it. She welled up and told me we have been drifting apart for a few years and I didn't see it. She said she looks forward to talking to people at work more than me. She did go on to say that she has thought of moving out to 'find herself'. She said she didn't live by herself for long enough before moving in with me (she lived with her folks until late 20's), by herself for about a year and then in with me, we had been dating for 2 years at that point. She feels she has taken on the role of 'wife' and lost her identity, the essence of who she is, that combined with drifting apart has broken us.
I told her I am going to see IC by myself as she is so important to me, she is welcome to come or go by herself, whatever. She didn't really respond to this.
jorgegene - you are right, I have been a very lucky person.
Thanks again, I'm sorry for loading my issues on others, I have never dealt with anything close to this magnitude before. I feel more settled than a few days ago, but still hurt like hell.