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post #31 of 37 (permalink) Old 04-08-2017, 10:31 PM Thread Starter
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megrbaby87 I'm sure she does think I have my own problems, and she's probably not wrong, not drinking and certainly not young girls but I'm sure I do have my own, everybody does. And she does have people she talks to that hear her side and not mine. I don't wish to ever take her child from her, but I also will not allow her to take her from me.

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We have both agreed to finally call it quits. At first there was jabbing back and forth about what the other has done wrong and defending our own actions, but after a day or so we have been able to calm down and become civil.

She is currently out of town. And will be for two more weeks. While at first I was nervous because she had threatened to not come back or to come back and not tell me where she was going to stay with my daughter. After she calmed down she told me where she is going to be staying and that she will bring my daughter here upon her arrival. We were able to discus some custody arrangements and have decided that we are going to share joint 50/50 custody with joint decision making. She does wish to have "primary" care she says because of health insurance reasons, she said she will have state care with her as well as help with childcare. A part of feels like she only wants primary so she can collect child support from , but another part thinks this is reasonable. The child support would only be around $250 a month so it's not as if she can live off my child support alone and sit around and do nothing while I pay her so I'm not to concerned about it.

We had discussed before after one of our fights while we were making up that if we were to split that we would keep this civil and try to keep it out of court. And it seems she wishes to keep it that way, me as well so long as it remain civil.

She intends to get an apartment a few towns over. She was talking as if she had nothing like I would send her with the clothes on her back. Again another thing I reminded her that I would never leave her with nothing and asked her to make a list of what from the house she wishes to take with her. This far we have agreed to split things relatively evenly. She will take one of the 3 beds, 2 of the 4 TV's, the two recliners and I will keep the coach, 2 of the 3 dressers, I will keep the nightstands, she wishes to leave the dogs here because she doesn't want to seperate them and I have a yard she won't, is going to go through the kitche
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She is going to go through the kitchen and take some essentials while leaving me with some
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Re: Trying to leave, she keeps seducing me, and I keep letting her

Photograph it all. Photo her car with the stuff she takes. Most women come back and say you kept everything and want more, once they see how hard it is to pay for living alone. No matter what, do NOT agree to pay her anything until you have been to a lawyer.
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Thank you, I will definitely document it all. I'm glad I got that advice because I probably would not have. Really everything that is mine, I have acquired since we have been together so to a point she can try to lay some claim to everything. Hoping we can continue to be civil, but since we have talked I feel like she has flip flopped a few times already.
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Re: Trying to leave, she keeps seducing me, and I keep letting her

Jpp3, It's good that you realize that this is a bad dynamic and that it's not getting better. Be careful that hysterical bonding ( great sex ) doesn't sabotage you because it's addictive.

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Don't forget that half of everything is yours.
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