Re: Are you happy you left? happy you stayed?
Last night was pretty uncomfortable.
The house goes up for sale in a week; nd my realtor is sure it will be sold by the time the weekend is over; so things are moving forward.
Last night, though, STBX started asking why I've been so distant; he said, "it's like you've been mad at me since we had that bank meeting; I don't know what I did wrong. What did I do wrong?" I didn't say too much, I just nodded and acknowledged what he was saying. I didn't deny that there's been tension or a lack of communication, I jsut nodded. I was a bit surprised, and didn't want to say the wrong thing. We were just about to sit down for dinner, the kids were in th same room; I didn't want to get into it at that particular moment, so I jsut said, "Maybe let's not talk about this RIGHT now" and he replied, "I just miss you, that's all" .. I looked down and kind of slowly walked out of the room when his attention was to our daughter. I didn't talk about it again all night, but he was teary all through dinner.
I know I need to tell him soon; a part of me thinks, 'man, he's GOT to see it coming!!' But this morning, he was calling me sweetheart and stuff; even though he slept on the couch last night.
I wanted to wait until the house sells, but maybe I'll have to tell him before than. When he comes at me with things like, "What did I do wrong?" How do I respond? When I actually say something I don't like, he retaliates with false promises to change, and excuses, or will turn it around to be my fault. OR he cries, and starts talking about how stupid he is.
I'm getting scared, but I haven't changed my mind.
When he asked me what he had done wrong, I was able to dodge the question.. but I won't be able to when i actually tell him I'm moving on. What can I say that keeps my point strong, but doesn't personally attack him, either... any suggestions?