Going back to the insecure question...I guess I just don't understand why OP is upset that her hubby doesn't like hanging out with her friends. I can get it if he were avoiding her family...that is a completely different issue altogether. That would not be cool. Family is family and you have an obligation to be there. But I guess I just don't understand why it impedes her ability to socialize and have fun without her husband. I see women at social events all the time, all the time, without hubbies in tow. It doesn't seem to bother them. I would imagine they like the break from their husbands.
Hmm, did you take into account that he has not worked since 2003, she does most of the childcare, housework, and works full time. If he is not interacting with her then who is he having sex with without really knowing her. Is she just a face, a vagina for him? Is he having sex with someone that he really does not know? Sex is important,but without a connection who the heck is he making love to if he is clueless into whom he is having sex with? How about hsi threats of divorce that he used to control her? And if research is more important, than with neurology, sex for males is more of a reward system than a bonding one compared to females. Females actually bond more and feel more love by a wide margin when it comes to sex and this research is easily found out if you want to look it up. Still, sex is important because it is rewarding and has so many benefits to both males and females. Just like people mistake attraction for bonds.
My gf is both my best friend, someone that I can talk to and want to spend time with and am highly attracted to at the same time. I love to put my arms around her while we enjoy a movie, I love the joy on her face when I surprise her, I love how she is my cheerleader, or how we are there for one another, I can count on her, the OP cannot say the same for her husband.
Btw, the grass is greener compared to my previous ex. Just like any relationship is different and people bring different things into a relationship, we get different reactions. If someone is married to an abuser, cheater, someone neglectful, and then is in a relationship with someone without those issues, the grass is already greener. Depends on multiple factors. AS bad as Losinghim's husband is currently, he was not as nearly as terrible as her ex-husband. The grass is greener for LH already is just that there is still a lot of issues.
I agree with you if they can work on their issues, the grass can grow greener but nonetheless, how green it is is still highly dependent on the people involved. I have a friend that left her ex even though she was in a happy marriage and is now in a better marriage where the greass is greener. Her ex convinced her to join the hot wife lifestyle and that is how she met her current husband. It was love at first sight and they shared more interests in her and her ex. That is what I mean the greeness of the grass and its potential is dependent on the people involved. Why the grass is greener for me than my previous because of a lot of factors. People sometimes make mistakes in who they marry and if they tried for what they beleive is enough, how would investing more time solve the issues? My ex is making someone's life miserable and we are still friends and I know that I would be miserable with her still. I had to cut the cord at some point. How much should I sacrifice for her sake, live my life for another? That is everyone's choice. This is my only life and I sure as hell would not waste it on someone that does not care enough about what I need if I am the only one giving. I find it fascinating that people talk about vows and forget about cherishing one another.