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post #46 of 55 (permalink) Old 02-23-2017, 09:29 AM
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Re: Wife Does Not Find me Attractive

When a woman tells her husband she's not attracted to him anymore, it's just a matter of time until she's cheating. I know it's hard. I know it seems like an impossible feat.
But she doesn't love you. If she loved you, you would be the most handsome man in the world to her.
She is just staying right now because it's easy to stay.

No kids. As everyone says, the RIGHT thing to do is go find a woman that loves you. The RIGHT thing in this case is the HARD thing to do. But all we can tell you is what you should do. You have to be the one to make your mind up and do it.

But I truly think you should divorce her. If you wait until she cheats before you start detaching, I can tell you that you're in for a nightmare of pain.

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I think you'll find that once you present her with divorce papers, she suddenly rediscovers her attraction to you. And the attraction will be genuine. She is playing some kind of power game with you, putting you down to see how much you'll take. I think she actually wants you to respond forcefully so that you can reassert your dominance and she can respect you again, and feel safe and comfortable. In "redpill" parlance, she's giving you a "sh** test". Take a stand now, in any case.

But it's your call on whether you can respect someone who plays games like this and whether you'd like to stay married only to replay this game every few months. Good luck.
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Thanks for the replies. I know that the logical thing to do is to end the marriage, which I've told her is what will happen if things don't drastically change.

I'm pretty certain she is not physically cheating on me with anyone but I would say she is definitely emotionally cheating on me with every guy she finds more attractive then me. Whether it is a random guy at a store, guy on tv, etc she always obsesses on how she could've had a guy like that but is stuck with me.

I know divorce is probably the answer but it's just hard knowing that it's just this one thing in her mind that is eating away at her and ultimately ruining the marriage.
Data Man,

I stopped reading when I got to this post of yours. So lets recap.
(1) she blatantly tells you all her ex boyfriends were "hunks" and she is not sexually attracted to you
(2) you are close to living like a "monk"
(3) she openly flirts in front of you with other men. What do you think she is doing when you are not around.???

And you are 100% SURE she is not involved with another man. ??? i would not bet my 401K on that if I were you unless she is has a huge supply of sex toys that she is regularly using.

And eventually she is going to flirt with someone that she will meet up with. Understand something, if you do some reading, one of the main red flags for a woman in an affair is stopping sex with her husband.

Data, you have a wife who is being about as disrespectful as it gets, telling you how she could do better. She openly flirts with other men in front of you, and at the same time is denying you what is a mans primary need in a relationship, which is SEX.

Id suggest you get in somewhat of a detective mode without telling her and stop making assumptions about what she is or is not doing. there have been many before you than were SURE there wife was not cheating for the same reasons you are stating. it is time you find out for sure because I am guessing you do not want to live like this forever.
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Are you sure you're as attractive as you think you are? What are your hygiene habits like? My husband has a body most men would kill for, but his oral hygiene is pretty poor. His entire family does not take pride in their teeth so I blame them, but as an adult it's disgusting and I confess I belittle him if he goes on day 5 without brushing. Sorry. Not sorry. Do you just throw on some sweats and never do your hair? Her treatment of you isn't right, but it's one thing to be decent looking and quite another not to put in any effort. As a woman it takes so mch ****ing effort to maintain an apperance that I want my equal. All of the shaving, waxing, tanning, highlights, manicures.. That's just BASIC care. Maybe she wants more effort on your part?

That's BASIC care? LOL. Only if you can afford it!
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That's BASIC care? LOL. Only if you can afford it!
shaving, waxing, tanning, highlights, manicures...

I know my wife would LOSE respect for me if I did any but the first on the list.
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Re: Wife Does Not Find me Attractive

I find other females more attractive than my gf but that does not mean I am cheating on her. But if she stopped being attracted to you, then you need to detach and find someone else that is attracted to you. Simple, but hard to do because you are the one with the stronger level of attachment, the one that is more attracted to your partner.

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Data, when the women of TAM are telling you to drop this gal, you need to listen, because more often than not the ladies here come running to the defense of their sisters. This is not the case with your harpy. You need to get out of this marriage before she destroys you.
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I find other females more attractive than my gf but that does not mean I am cheating on her. But if she stopped being attracted to you, then you need to detach and find someone else that is attracted to you. Simple, but hard to do because you are the one with the stronger level of attachment, the one that is more attracted to your partner.
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He's dead. She killed him.

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