hello, I have been married for 11 years. let me start with a little bit of me I went trough a situation at a young age and grew up in a marriage where things where always bad. so I have an issue with trust but I have tried and my husband and I had worked things out and went trough a lot of situations together. after five years of marriage he decided he was not happy and not in love with me no more so he left, that same night he slept with a girl he had been talking to for sometime before he left me. he came home and told me he had cheated the next day. we separated for a couple of months and then decided to work things out for us and for my son who was 1 year old at the time. we went to counseling for five years and it helped. we had been doing good he had been very supportive trough some surgeries I had to go trough and had been there while I'm going to school. recently he told me he is not attracted to me anymore that I have gained weight and he feels like it will be an issue and he worries that in some years I will end up looking like my mom who is overweight. I was really hurt and told him I did not want to be with someone who is just with me because I'm the mother of his kids and because he feels like he has too because he made a promise to be with me for the rest of our lives. it has been over a month since we talked about our situation and his feelings for me and trough all this time he has been more cold and distant with me things have changed so much and now he told me he is not in love with me anymore, but still does not want to separate because he cares for me. I'm at a point where I just don't know what else to do I don't know how to be with him and be ok with him and I have no idea how to leave and be ok with out him. I guess the reason I joined this group is because I'm at a loss and hope that maybe reading about others stories it might help me decide what I need to do.