Married to my best friend
Hello. I am seeking advice since i feel that everyone around me is too involved in the situation to have a clear mind about my problems. So i 26 years old and my husband is 29. We've been married for 5 months and together for 7 years. We've always been best friends and funcioned perfectly and honestly, we never fight. And i think i was in love with him. But for the past year or a bit more i have started to loose the romantic love for him. I love him dearly as a friend, as a part of my family, but the romantic feelings were starting to fade. And i tried i tried so hard i even got married since there were still a bit or feelings left. But now i see they are gone. And i see no way of getting them back. So i told him this and he was shocked and surprised. And i have no legit reason to give him. None at all.. he is a perfect as he is.. he worships me, never holds me back, loves me to death. And i like hanging out with him and going on trips with him, but there is no passion, no want for sex. He is my best friend and i am affraid that is all he is. He would like me to tell him what to do to save our marriage but i cant even give him an answer. Because he is doing nothing wrong. I am so devestated to see him devestated.. and i am most affraid he will not talk to me again. So i even said i'd go to counceling with him (telling him not to expect a different outcome) just to make him accept this less painfully. Whenever he pleads with me to try i tell him i dont see how it could be different and when he says he's going to wait for me i tell him not to, but i feel broken seeing him broken. Am i doing the right thing? Do you honestly think the romantic feeling could come back? I would love to give him a list of things to change, but there just isn't anything. I feel like we dont have a healthy relationship since i am the center of his universe all the time and i want for me someone to challange me and for him someone to love him unconditionally. Is that wrong? Am i livin in fairytales? Let me know your thoughts, please.
Last edited by lorica; 03-06-2017 at 02:31 AM.
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