Join Date: Jan 2016
Location: Southern USA, but longtime NYC boy prior to our move.
Re: feeling lost
Unfortunately cheaters often cheat again. He may have cheated before and you did not catch him. I know plenty of guys who cheat their entire marriage and maybe get caught once or twice. I only had my ex fiancee cheat on me, but I could not picture living with knots in my stomach every time she came home late from work or went on a business trip. My life would be living suspicious of my wife all the time and I could not do that. Plus she would have resented my being suspicious of her all the time and that would have probably driven her to another guy. You have learned what I learned a long time ago, a person's past behavior is a very good indicator of their future behavior. You either look the other way as many wives/husbands do or leave him. The choice is yours, not ours.
Many prefer to drown in a pool of their own morality rather than seek the safety of a different morality when the choice is monogamy or your marriage.