I did brielfy think R was possible. I do not think so now though. His refusal to be honest is not acceptable, I can't live the rest of my life waiting for him to do this again & his words and actions show me this will absolutely happen again. He doesn't want everyone finding out what he has done, he is furious that my mom & sister know (they were the only ones I talked to & that was because I needed a support system). He really just wants to be done with discussions and carry on with life like everything is fine. He is also afraid of our marriage failing being his fault, so I feel he is putting up the front of "working on it" now so that when I say it's over he can say I was the one who walked away when he wanted to try to fix it. It's all a mind game and he is really good at it. I had a meeting with the PI this morning, he has dealt with these situations a lot & is completely baffled at my hubs behavior and lack of remorse & denial of anything sexual happening with these women. The fact that I called them dirty strippers and hubs got offended that I insulted them & said I don't know them or their lives tells me everything - more worried about insulting them than how his actions hurt me.
So sorry Leaveorstay but you know and hear all you need to know to take action.
Your WH wants to continue to have his cake and eat it, he doesn't care about the hurt he has caused you or the destruction of his marriage or family unit, that is saying alot.
Please let him have what he wants. You should also tell his family, your friends, everyone. He needs to be hit with the reality of what he has done. He is mad he is being exposed, typical cheater, it is all about self preservation and hiding their actions.
Get a lawyer, make sure you and the kids are covered financially, don't give him any wriggle room. It doesn't matter if he wants to pretend 'to work on it.' He has cheated, it is now YOUR choice to stay or go, he has lost the privilege of making any decisions with regard to your marriage, you tell him this.
Do now waver, stay strong, get counselling but you need rid of this disgusting man.