Lost and Confused
Looking for supportive advice. I'm open to trying anything, or leaving if it's best.
We have been married for over 30+ years. We have 2 great grown children, retired early, and enjoy our time either together or apart. But I prefer being together best. I love my wife, and know sh still loves me. We do have many happy times, but regret fights and disagreements.
We understand marriage ups and downs, we are Christian centered people. But over the past 2 years my has increased her drinking daily social to downright drunk. This is new and concerns me greatly. I'm very upset about a situation I have no control over, Help.
Recently my wife was supporting her brother, 15 years older, with the passing of his wife. We agreed that my wife should offer her support , she did so with my absolute blessing till she passed. They were world travelers for many years. Had paid for a very expense 8 week cruise. He asked my wife to go in his wifes passing place. She agreed, but needed my support which I did not give at 1st, after deep discussion, pain, anxiety, one of us had to give. I choose to be that person, my wife would have resented me for the rest of my life. Trip is now 2 weeks old we chat every couple of days, and stay in contact via internet. My wife takes her looks as a top priority, enjoys drinking, and flirting...she is on a very old passenger type of ship, no single guys to hound her. She is enjoying being with her brother at this difficult time for him. The trip was 100% paid for, plus expenses will be covered by her brother. All her sisters have traveled to those location before, so now my wife can join in with the future conversations which she will enjoy. I support her 100%, but worry about when she returns. I worry that this may change her and that I will lose her.
We enjoy traveling and being together, but this long seperation hurts me far more than my wife. she is having the time of her life, which she deserves. She knows how much I'm hurting but does not care, and will not discuss. I do not want to bring her down.
I think of the pain and hurt constantly..I DO NOT WANT TO hurt anymore. Should I suck it up, stop worring, make the best of our time apart. Or should I consider my marriage ending and seek the next step in this stressful process. I love her so much, I'm struggling.