Re: Remorse is sometimes not good enough
My wife had an ongoing affair with my supposed "best friend". I found out when they were on a cruise together and I was crushed. For several days I tried to contact her as she said she was so ashamed she wanted to jump off the ship rather than face me. He got off at the next island and flew home. She finally got home several days later and I had already gone through anger, and was into full blown sadness. I was so glad to see her and she said she was sorry and it would never happen again. We went to counciling, she cut off all ties and we put it behind us. We have had a lot of great times for 11 years but to this day, I still have triggers and mind movies...songs, places, people, television shows, whatever...something seems to trigger these bad memories. He had the same name as me so I even have to hear his effing name in bed. Depending how your mind works, triggers are tough! My wife is a good woman and I trust her and know she would never do this again, but now that I have tried to let her know how all this affected and still affects me, we are heving serious problems to the point of not sleeping together and talking seperation or divorce. It's tough... Good luck!
Last edited by Struggling4ever; 01-31-2012 at 03:23 AM.