I got a text from a random number saying that they don't know me but said my wife has been with Simone else. Have me his number and name. I looked it up and found out who it was. It was a person that she co taught with in another district. The became friends and it ended when they got to close and his girlfriend didn't like it anymore. I checked phone records and this number was all over. Confronted her and was calm about it. Told her I needed the truth and now was the time to be honest and come clean. I asked her who it was and she was like a deer in headlights. She went Pail. She tried to play it off like it was just a friendship and I came back saying now is the time to be honest and that I know almost everything. End result I don't know what I am going to do but if I ever did decide to stay and work on things then this is going to be really hard for me and is going to take a lot of time. Remember we have two kids together. I am on the fence of either divorce or possible trying to salvage whatever we can.
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Forget who is right or wrong. Quite honestly, we all hope we are wrong but not the case here. But right now my friend, you actually know nothing other than that she has been cheating on you, most likely from her reaction likely physically. But how can you make any decisions until you have some semblance of the truth, which you do not now have.
So in order to help you avoid any more pain than you are already in, I am going to tell you how to very quickly find out if she has any intentions of telling you the truth.
(1) get to an attorney tomorrow, and tell your wife you are doing that. At this point, you need to find out if she even gives a **** so no need to keep it a secret.
(2) if, and only if, she gives you the usual crap about all of a sudden realizing she wants you, then you tell her she has 24 hours to write a timeline from start to finish with nothing left out.
(3) once you get that, then you tell her since she is already a proven liar, she will now take a polygraph test to confirm that what she has written is true.
my bet is that when and if you get to number 3 she will resemble Casper The Ghost, and will refuse because she knows she is lying.
Now, you can ignore totally what I wrote, and beg her to tell you the truth, and what will happen is that unless that message came from the Om wife or girlfriend, your wife and him will be going further underground and you will be eating your heart out.
And last piece is leave your kids out of this. Using them to justify eating a **** sandwich is going to get you nothing.
Now that you have caught her, you are in control if you want to be. or you can play the "pick me" game and have more D Days. And stay the hell away from marriage therapists until you are 100% sure you have the truth. You do not do therapy with someone actively in an affair, and she is.