, In all fairness, I only mentioned I've been considering the option of divorce over the last year, however our marriage has not been all that great for several years now. As a matter of fact, I came close to divorcing her 7 years ago because of the same issues we are having now, but didn't for the sake of our children. It has been exhausting for me to get her involved with anything, and I have tried. And now too tired to try anymore.
You said: This is likely because she is not in love with you either. Women who are in love with their husbands WANT to spend time with them, and stay in shape for them, and have sex with them. This can be fixed, but it will require that you put in serious effort.
I agree 100% with the first part of your statement, but not so much your last sentence.
Why is it that you think it is me who needs to "put in the serious effort"? I have made every effort to salvage our marriage, made compromises, suggested counseling(she refused), been the good/faithful husband/father, and in return I get promises that are made on her part, only too soon to be broken, and she goes back to the same routine.
And then there's this comment: I said: There is no one else "waiting in the wings" for me for my relationship to end, but I am not afraid I will find love again.
You said: Are you sure? There is no female friend who's providing a listening ear?
I didn't join this forum to become a target of accusations of members on here. I've never cheated on my wife and wouldn't discuss my personal dirty laundry to anyone I know, female or male. Anyone who does that is a fool. (aka loose lips sink ships). I joined this forum in anonymity to find help with a difficult decision I am facing from others who have experienced similar circumstances, and to gain some knowledge on what to expect.
I appreciate your comments and the time you took to respond to my post. I'll check out the book you referred to as well for another point of view.