Yes, his ongoing depression is likely the reason why he he lacks empathy for you. I'm sorry, with 2 children, that must be VERY difficult, to say the least.
The problem with continuing to run without him after you've invited him to join, is that he still doesn't agree to it, and you're still doing it anyway. If he doesn't like running (totally valid), then the options to brainstorm with him become: doing an activity you BOTH enjoy together, or you doing the activity on your own AFTER you've scheduled time to meet the need for emotional connection with him (15 hours a week to maintain romantic love). The two of you could walk together instead a few times a week while you run the other days (this would also help his health). Or spend some of that time practicing yoga to help you stretch on your off days, and give your husband some relief for his depression/weight. There are many other possibilities, I'm just suggesting a few to show that you are both engaging in behaviors that are not best for the relationship. You've both neglected to put the marriage first. That means you can both start making changes to fix this and it very likely will repair the marriage. But you both have to be on board. You both need to start putting the marriage first and showing each other extraordinary care.
I think it all boils down to him not liking what I have achieved. When we met I was quiet just started studying to become an accountant and now I have a very good job I am more confident more friends I lost 6 stone after having my kids and he is still doing what he was doing when we met.
I understand the need to spend time together and I have tried. But he falls asleep or he games. He blames his work for the sleep but he does this just after he has woken up.
When we did spend time at night we would have awkward silence. So I would busy myself with washing or just go to bed to avoid it.
I tried many times to get him to talk, but he would just carry on watching tv or say "what are YOU on about now?" Like I was moaning again when all I wanted was to try and talk about making things better but he would just hit me with - stop running and stop going the gym before work, which I did for a short time but in the mornings he would then get up and fall asleep or get up and watch tv while I ran around doing everything for he kids breakfasts, which then made me think that was the reason he wanted me there.
I don't run much and when I do it's to alleviate the stress from work. It's a balancing act but when he isn't willing to take on board some of the things that he has said and done then I am not sure we can move forward, I am not without my faults I get grumpy through frustration and can snap I know I can. But I feel 100% rejected by him
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