So I've sat him down tonight and said I haven't changed my mind. He said he thinks he had a mini breakdown today, lost some time/memory. Said he gets up before the kids (they are on holiday from school but I have to work) and gets all his tears out before they see him.
He said he doesn't think he will make it through the split and that he is just enjoying summer with the kids before he can't afford to provide for them anymore.
I said to him it felt like emotional blackmail. He denied it. He was very upset but i said I cannot stay with you it's not a normal loving relationship.
He then went on to say the kids will be crushed by it and that his parents will be offended that they helped us 13 years ago to set up our family home and now we are throwing it in their face, I tried to say that we didn't know then this wouldn't work. We've been together 22 years but the last 6 have taken their toll.
I explained I wanted to help him work out his finances and he there for him, I don't hate Him and wouldn't see him high and dry but i cannot remain his wife.
I feel guilt and sadness. I feel like I have broken him. He was such a strong man, I feel like he is throwing every emotional trigger at me that's possible.
He denied that he had depression today but he does.
I feel a bad person
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