Hi, I came across this site in a desperate attempt to find some answers!!
I have been married for 11 years - just celebrated year 11.. We have two beautiful children aged 8 and 6, nice house and car and basically everything a couple married that long would have.
For the past couple of years my husband has become increasingly distant, less sex and intimacy - he says i demand too much from him, wanting a cuddle and a kiss is a chore for him, this hurts mt feelings because i love him so much.. last year i cried so much, i cry myself to sleep because he ignores me and my needs, he makes me feel like i am the most ugly woman in the world. Why? i ask myself why? i have been a good wife, our children are good children - i gave up my career to stay with them, i try my best to look for him, i have done everything with the best intentions, yet i have a man that doesn't show any appreciation or respect.
Today after weeks of misery i begged him to tell me what was wrong with me, to give a straight answer.. He replied.... I don't find you sexually attractive anymore! i can't have sex with you because i don't enjoy it, i don't love you that way anymore... this has hurt me beyond belief! i keep asking myself why? what went wrong? why me? i dont know what to do!! i cry for my children, i cry because i adore him, i cry because not being loved by him hurts to much and i cry because if it fails it's me who broke it off! what do i do? i am so confused... i dont want my children to grow up without a dad but i would have to sacrifice my happiness... is it possible for him to find me attractive again? has anyone heard of this ever happening? please someone give me some advice!!
J
I have been married for 11 years - just celebrated year 11.. We have two beautiful children aged 8 and 6, nice house and car and basically everything a couple married that long would have.
For the past couple of years my husband has become increasingly distant, less sex and intimacy - he says i demand too much from him, wanting a cuddle and a kiss is a chore for him, this hurts mt feelings because i love him so much.. last year i cried so much, i cry myself to sleep because he ignores me and my needs, he makes me feel like i am the most ugly woman in the world. Why? i ask myself why? i have been a good wife, our children are good children - i gave up my career to stay with them, i try my best to look for him, i have done everything with the best intentions, yet i have a man that doesn't show any appreciation or respect.
Today after weeks of misery i begged him to tell me what was wrong with me, to give a straight answer.. He replied.... I don't find you sexually attractive anymore! i can't have sex with you because i don't enjoy it, i don't love you that way anymore... this has hurt me beyond belief! i keep asking myself why? what went wrong? why me? i dont know what to do!! i cry for my children, i cry because i adore him, i cry because not being loved by him hurts to much and i cry because if it fails it's me who broke it off! what do i do? i am so confused... i dont want my children to grow up without a dad but i would have to sacrifice my happiness... is it possible for him to find me attractive again? has anyone heard of this ever happening? please someone give me some advice!!
J