Saddad, you have messed up. I would suggest you take the focus of your WW for now, you have precipitated all of this and have to own it. Just because your wife was lazy doesn't make you entitled to go out and cheat for 3 days, I suspect you wanted to teach her a lesson, she was devastated, you got her where you wanted her then kicked her when she was down. This is a huge issue from a female's perspective, she is not emotionally safe with you obviously, so in her (ahem) 'wisdom' she decided to get you back.
you both sound young, how old are you?
Please leave the marriage aside for now
Go get some therapy for yourself and work on you first of all.
Let your wife do what she must do, but you have to sort out yourself with or without her.
We are in our mid 30s. We had our kid and got married young.
We are in Marriage Counseling right now and I have been reading a lot of self help books and online materials.
I am almost to the screw it stage, but I don't want to be. I just can't be treated like a door mat, while still continuing to support her reckless habits and insane spending that has occurred over the past few months, coupled with being completely ignored and iced out. It's a horrible situation.
I would feel better if she WAS tryign to fix herself, but she is just laying in bed all day, or the couch and smoking all day. :/