Join Date: Dec 2016
Location: The Frozen North
Re: Email from Wife: I Should Consider Separating
My wife was being coached by a girlfriend many years ago. I suspected as such, but was faced with a wall of my shortcomings. I engaged my wife in a highly granular discussion of my faults and kept bobbing and weaving to keep her off balance. Finally at one juncture, I just said, "And that is Hannah's take on this?" Without thinking she said, "Most definitely".
I had her, and started grilling her as to what her girlfriend had said. I knew her girlfriend and the woman and I had very little liking for one another. She was a ball-buster who had driven her husband out. The poor bastard did not know what he'd done, but he found himself on the street. Turned out that Hannah, wanted a "wing-girl" to go to a local cougar bar. Hannah was working non stop to sew the seeds of doubt in my wife's mind. Hannah wanted someone to attract some males. My wife is hot, Hannah is not.
Basically, I called Hannah the next day, and let her in on our discussion. My wife called her earlier to tell her that they would not be talking any further, as we had determined she was NOT a friend to the marriage. I left her with one parting thought; I am still friends with your ex, and I will start giving him as much ammunition as I can to re-open your financial agreements, and custody agreements. You have made a powerful enemy and I would advise you to mind your own business.
We have not spoken to that despicable woman in 20 years.
OP, go home and have a long discussion with your wife. You know what she has been hung up on, now determine what her motivations are. Is it a girlfriend? Is she becoming involved with another guy? Something else is going on in the background. If she wants a separation, then draw up an agreement where both of you separate, however, neither of you can date or see others. The penalty for doing so should be punitive both financially and as far as custody is concerned. If you hit her with this agreement and she freaks, you will know there is another guy.
Last edited by Taxman; 04-19-2017 at 04:07 PM.