Re: Ending Limbo?
This is like reading my own story. Make me feel better I am not the only enabling BS here LOL
Do not have the baby! It will not help and just creates another bond to him that you will not be able to shake. If you really want another child and can do it on your own then do that. It would be better than extending your sentence with this man.
My H also continued working with the OW so I know your pain there but just to be sure you understand the person you are with he enjoys the pain this causes you, he sees it as a type of control. Let me guess when you give him an boundary he picks a fight, makes it your fault, and then gives you the silent treatment. Then he will find a way to hurt you emotionally. This is abuse and you need to end this cycle.
Here is the bad news, there is no way to pull the band aid off slowly with guys like this. When you leave it will be bad. My MC prepared me for it but even I was surprised. He will be angry and hurt and co-dependent people like us hate it when other are angry. But it will fade and eventually you can co-parent. It took 3 months for me.
Trust me you will be happier alone with a pug than a life with this man.