Re: Is there a good enough reason to divorce??
Give unto Caesar that which is Caesar's due.
Give to God what is God's due.
Give to one's spouse what one's spouse is due.
When you turn the other cheek, make sure both of them are turned that way...and you'll be walking in the right direction.
I think discernment is important.
Most religions support discernment, and have high clerics of one sort or another to pray/meditate/discern about interpretation.
I mean, hello, if we are going to support scripture in marriage, us women better get our harems sorted out. Everyone who wants to go with Joe, get in this line, everyone going with Bob other line. Guys, you better have some heck of a job, and get to the gym, you'll need the stamina. It is time to divide up the goats and sheep and name your 100 children. Don't forget, if your bro dies you're responsible for his ladies as well.
That's my take on scripture.
And this let you H be the leader in all things stuff - well H's are human, they get brain tumors and diabetes and alzheimer's and addictions. I prefer being your brother's keeper (metaphorically) but nobody said by being born you have to be a martyr in doing that. How are you going to be someone's keeper if they put you 6 feet under or end up in the looney bin? Sometimes the right thing to do is to get out to where the spiritual air is breathable, and circle round the wagons from a better vantage point.
I go with the Mongolian viewpoint, historically speaking. A woman has to agree to the marriage, and if it doesn't work out she's free to leave, with the kids. No reason need be given and there are no tainted reputations for the woman for doing this. Doesn't work out cause the guy's an a**, leave. People get that. And because woman can do it freely, they do, and people get how many guys are not suitable for marriage. In ancient Mongolia, if a guy got left too often, word got around, and nobody would agree to marry him. Plus no kids, so harder time making a living. I think that's a much better system!