Originally Posted by DreadHeadHusband View Post
she said it was more than 10 times but less than 15 from april to now, but I don't know what to belive, she said he always wore a condom because she didn't want to get pregnant and she says she didn't give him oral nor he.
she told me they would just take their pants off and go at it then shed leave come home fix our familys food after a shower and lay up next to me like nothing was wrong.
according to her they did the same thing we do except he listened to her for a while and then they started having sex, after that whenever she went over to drop his sister or mom off all he had to do was ask to have sex and it was on, when I spent 6 years with this woman all he needed was one talk session.
One thing you learn over and over from reading this posts is cheaters lie. You would be wise to not believe her story. Usually it's worse. Before you decide if she is remorseful decide if you want to be a guy married to a women who can do that to you. Who can lie to you for months. Carry on a second life. Not everyone is like that. And not everyone is willing live with someone who is.
Lots of people rush into reconciliation thinking they are going to fix things only to find out 5, 10 , 15 years later that they resent it and are now 5, 10 ,15 years older. I know you are feeling like you are losing love, but you know what? You can find love again with someone else. The only thing in the decision of staying together or leaving that you can't get back, is precious time. That is the one thing there is no replacement for, once it's gone it gone. So you should be very careful not to waste it.
Also don't assume because she is sorry that it won't happen again. Another thing you learn is even the most contrite people during the first days can end up cheating again, sometimes years later. Sometimes the sorrow is just an act because the cost of breaking up is too steep. They don't want to lose their home, their security. Sometimes it's because they are very broken people, like drug addicts, who can only "white knuckle" it so long before they go back to the bad habits that got them their in the first place. Again you read threads like this all the time too. Most cheaters have some sort of emotional problems. This takes a long time to fix and they have to be motivated. Even then they may not be able to, or want to. It's always a risk in my opinion.
Besides that not everyone is a cheater, there are people out there capable of being in a relationship with you without stabbing you in the back because you didn't get a card.