Re: 24 plus years and I am ready to go
OP, don't stay for the kids. The reality is that kids are tough. You suffered as a kid by the poor decisions your parents made, don't visit that upon your children by making poor decisions your self. Your children will get a far more positive lesson when they see their father taking positive action in divorcing this shrew of an abusive woman, then they ever would in seeing you "tough it out" by sticking around just for them.
At the center of every moMEnt of my life is ME!