01-27-2009, 06:15 PM
Join Date: Jan 2009
| | Good Marriage or Good Friends Bad Marriage?
I will try to make this short so I don't bore anyone, this is my first time here and would like other peoples advice. I am a 30 year old male and have been married 6 years. It has been an up and down marriage. I had an affair 2 years ago and was ready for a divorce but she wouldn't let us go. The affair ended and I was still ready to go but she convinced me to give it another try and that she would not be so demanding and overbearing. Since then it's been good and bad. We get along good but I see her more as a friend than a marriage partner. I do not show her affection such as hugs and kisses unless she takes them and I have not told her i loved her in over 2 years. I know she loves me very much and I doubt I could ever find anyone that would love me more but I just can't return the love in the ways I feel I should. As I said we get along fine but I just don't have the loving feelings for and I am wondering if I am wasting both our time. I guess at this point I have 3 choices try to love her, just keep going on the way we are, or try a seperation. FYI-I have tried the Mort Fertel book and also the Divorce Busting book and just can't find the love. Please give any input that you can. Thanks.
I could go into more detail about many things, if you want more information about anything just ask and I will post. Just wanted to keep it shortish for now.