02-25-2012, 01:30 AM
Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: So Cal
| | Re: Should I go back? Please help!
Originally Posted by EleGirl
I believe very much in marriage. But I believe that both husband and wife should treat each other with great respect and love. And when the respect and love do not exist the marriage is not good for anyone. So I think you are a good example.
I loved my ex-wife beyond measure but when I discovered a video of her and the OM having sex, my world was shattered beyond words. As much as my ex-wife was remorseful and hysterically begged me on her hands and knees not to leave her, I knew that no matter how great my love for her was, in order for me to recover, I would have to divorce her - one of the most painful decisions I have made in my life.
Why do I bring my story up? Because for a marriage to be viable and healthy there must exist love, trust and respect
. If one of these is missing, the marriage is headed for the grave. We have to make decisions that may be painful in the short run but beneficial in the long run. I pray that you can see what is beneficial for YOU in the long run.
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