I have been through this before however this time seems to be the straw that is breaking the camels back. My wife of 11 years has always had a hard time manageing money that is what most of our fights are about.
I am a small business owner and she works along side with me. She is great at the creative side of the business and great with our kids but had ruined her credit before we were married.
For the past 3 months I had been taking care of my mother at her home, we recently lost her in December just after christmas. At which time I was obiously not at home to be able to follow up on what my wife was paying and not. I did commonly ask her if all the bills were paid. I always got the same answer yes, followed by me saying are you sure!! the response being yes everything is fine "don't you trust me".
Fast forward to when I arrived back home after my mothers death I found that my business loan was not paid for 2 months. Which I approached her about and she said that is incorecct the bank must have made a mistake " Which I had heard before".
I took care of that problem and of course asked is there anything else that I need to know about, anything late??? she of course said no, I just made a mistake and forgot to pay the Loan.
Fastforward to yesterday, I arrived at my home with my children and started to change for a Karate Class that I had when I heard a knock at the door, It was a process server with papers on the forclosure of my house. I contacted the bank and they told me that multiple letters and calls had been made to my wife and she had not remitted payment. To top off all of these problems my wife acts like I am wrong for questioning her every move from now on, asking to take over paying the bills and making sure that the money she had to pay the morgage gets back to my account so I can regulate the spending and take care of the forclosure. We have the money, Unless she just decided to take 15K out and just go to town while I was with my sick mother. I love my wife and I love my family but I really don't know how much more I can take or how much longer I can take this deception. To top everything else off she is now pregnant again.
Any thoughts or reccomendations would be great.