02-02-2009, 12:36 AM
Join Date: Feb 2009
| | Re: Please help; I want to save my marriage
hope you dont mind my asking but what happened that finalized his mind. you mentioned that he was willing for some space and time, and said things have blown up. what was it that blew up.
i appauld your effort in trying to save your marriage. and i wish you the best of luck, maybe giving him some space and time is just what he needs to rethink and revamp his way of thinking.
i am sorry but it was more then just working hard and not spending time with him. is it possible while you were busy working he found someone else? if you dont know by now, i dont suggest asking him at this time since he seems to be looking for a reason to dump you and it might come off as accusing. you might try to find out some other way, asking around discretely or something. what are his reasons for wanting to end the marriage?
has he moved out already? that would make it harder. but maybe by just talking (not about the relationship but other things you know he likes) and by just being nice and available might be all he needs. schedule time to do something with the child, like going to the park. and not pressuring him into being with you, just be there. dont talk about the marriage, talk about the child or his job, or his day or whatever. again, it is hard not to come off as interigating him or accusing, but you will have to work hard now that he has made up his mind. bring back the woman he fell in love with, and he might fall back in love with her. i am not saying ignore your own needs but without know the reasons he wants it to end, it is a simple suggestion.