02-09-2012, 03:53 PM
Join Date: Feb 2012
| | Im looking for some perspective. All advice is appreciated.
Im thinking about leaving my wife of 9 years. We have no kids, so nothing to worry about there. We got married when we were 21. The first few years were great, but then the deployment to Iraq came and changed everything. I was gone for over a year and when I came home I was not greeted with love and kisses, but instead I got the cold shoulder, emotionallty and physically. We talked and she said she was angry bc I did not call her enough. We would talk on the phone every 4 or 5 days and email in between. The first month i was back was supposed to be the best month of my life, but it turned out to be the worst and went further downhill from there. She did not want anything to do with me and even asked me to leave a few times. I was not ready so I begged and pleaded and she let me stay. This continued for the next year. She just wasnt there emotionally and physically for me. Our relationship slowly got better in the emotional dept. but not in the physical dept. I think the toll it put on me those years ago have finally caught up with me. We get along fine but I am just so unhappy. I dont want to be around her anymore, i dont have the urge to kiss or hug her. I dont want to have sex with her. Those are not normal feelings for me either. The best part of my day is either when im at work or she goes to bed. So thats pretty much the short story of my marriage. Any advice for me?