She sounds like a lost cause. Diivorce her. She may run back to u but you will probably not want her back anyway.
How did u end up marrying such an unproductive person anyway?
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I honestly don't know how she decided to become such an uninspired, unproductive human being.
We moved in together pretty early into our relationship (maybe 6 months), she had an apartment and was having a really hard time making ends meet (I had to buy her groceries a few times). I live in a house and felt pity for her, I don't recall ever saying the words "lets move in together" but I will say I spoke hypothetically of someday we should consider that, which she took and ran with and next thing I knew I was charged with renting U-Hauls and making it happen
She used to work and did some housework (never an actual 50/50 split) but enough to barely satisfy me. Then she quit (in large part I believe because her stores HVAC went out and she threw a giant temper tantrum about how hot it was). It seems like ever since she has crawled into this hole of laziness and apathy. Its like she's 19, on spring break, and just wants to vegitate for 2 weeks. Unfortunately for both of our sakes, she is not 19 she is almost 10 years older than that, not in school, not at work, and just lays around all day every day.
I think I'm kind of a doormat
and have enabled it to get this bad. I never truly put my foot down and said enough. She suckered me into quitting, which I thought well if this will make her happy fine. As mentioned earlier I have broached the subject of work and it is instantly shot down, usually with the 'you make plenty of money' -or- 'you want me to work retail when you know it makes me miserable'? It was also framed as 'I want to have kids someday so I might as well quit now' - whatever the hell that means. She stopped doing all housework, which I have expressed my displeasure -repeatedly- and occassionally I will get a crying fit about 'I know I'm a terrible wife', but then still do nothing.
I will be cleaning the house on Saturday morning (of course I have to wait around to vaccum for her to rumble out of bed), and she clearly walks by me, sees me in the laundry room (of all chores laundry is well known to be the one I dislike doing the most), knows I'm pissed, and will basically shrug her shoulders as she continues to the computer room where she will plop down and start playing games.
Shes also gained a tremendous amount of weight over the past 2 years, while never skinny - she probably added 70+ lbs. She is well past anything that could even be considered remotely healthy and several doctors have told her to lose weight. Her response is "I hate exercise, its so boring", and then proceeds to head back to her spot in front of the computer. Last time she went grocery shopping we were loaded up on ice cream, frozen pizzas and the like
Is it wrong to just want it to end? I dont even want to deal with therapy because as shes already proven, she wont follow any of the doctors suggestions