Re: not sure where i stand
As far as Jay goes- could be they've just become close friends, you have no evidence to the contrary.
But like you said, that almost doesn't matter. Their continued friendship was a dealbreaker and you told her as much, until of course it became apparent that the friendship continued, and it was no longer a dealbreaker for you because you lost your testicles somewhere along the way. She won't respect you for allowing her to continue the friendship with Jay after you told her you wouldn't tolerate it. Once that happened, she became aware that you weren't worthy of the truth, whatever it might be. I know it's a twisted way of thinking but that's what they do.