Re: Support site for divorcing or separating Asperger Spouse
Glad to hear your testimony. 40 yrs is a lot ! And, truly, your wife deserves all the appreciation and admiration from you! Every day for rest of your lives!! 16 years in my case, with 5 children. Tried and tried... In response - it's all my fault, I should know better how to deal with him, since he has an disorder... With time passing by, it got worse. High level of stress! One time it was emergency room visit - I had problem breathing because of stress. Couple of physical scenario.
One time he beat me up for real, recently-very mild case in comparison to another, but this time I called police for the first time in our years together. I wasn't home when police came, and him, being very smart talker, was able to blame everything on me. I came home, children told me that police came. He was just smiling at me like a winner would...
Police called me as well. I told them that my husband has an disorder, but doesn't want to go for any help. Suggestion was to go to Magistrate office and admit him for mental evaluation. This is the last move that I have. Just cannot do it! It would be offensive if someone did it to me... Especially a relative.
Through the years he had been telling me, that nothing I can do about our situation... I guess, he gets to prove it each time...
By now I heard (not once) that he didn't marry me because he fell in love with me... I heard that I do not look good... That no man will ever need me, because who I am...
He is 6'2" tall, 365 lb man. It's even intimidating when he yells at me, and children afraid of his yelling as well.
He doesn't care when I am sick, or sad... If one of the children are home from school, because of sickness, he won't go and see the child in the room, unless I ask him to go and visit... (Just do not want them to think that he doesn't care.)
When I sit with him on the porch ( have not happened for years now), there is no connection. He just in his own world. Just cannot enjoy with him simple things... I never heard from him: "What a beautiful day!" He doesn't notice this kind of stuff.
HOW MUCH MORE SHOULD I BE TAKING ?
Last edited by Val70; 10-12-2014 at 04:42 PM.