Re: Wife wants to stay married, but just want to be coexistng as friends
That is a huge decision, to stay together even after all that has happened. If you decide to stay together, for whatever the reason, I give you credit for that. No, it will not be easy for you. or her. But i also dont see any reason for it not to work for a while. Since neither you or her are in a hurry to get a divorce, then wait and see what happens. I mean you already got 27 years with her, and 6 kids, what is another year or two?
In the meantime, if you truely love her. Maybe you can use this time, to get to really know her, to show her how much you love her, and rekindle what you had 27 years ago when you all eloped. I dont care how much she is complaining about feeling tricked or taken advantage of now, back then she saw something in you or was attracted on some level (6 times at least) to elope with you in the first place. Women (or girls for that matter) dont just go against their daddys wishes because you forced her too. She had to have some reason besides being young and naive. She might not remember it due to all the other BS that has gotten in the way. But you need to find out what it was she saw in you in the first place and find a way to show her in a new way that you love her and appreciate her and will give her the best for the future time you have with her.
Sure, i can see that after 27 years of marriage, and raising children, she wants to explore life. But cant you do this together? If you support her, going to college classes, workshops, travelling or new hobbies, whatever, maybe even participate in these with her. Both of you might grow together. give up your lust for other women, online and off. (i get the feeling that you didnt actually have sex with another women) so yes, the hurt is there, and you cant change that, but you can make up for it now and in the future by making her feel like you cant live without her, and she is the only, most beautiful, sexy, wonderful, attrative, fun to be with woman you will ever know.
Give it your all in making her know and feel loved. Things might change and if not, divorce is alway an option for a later date. By her telling you she still wants to stay married, you have blessed with the opportunity to show her you love and care for her. I doubt she has a heart of stone, and all those things you do for her might melt the ice off.
You dont mention how things are going now in your house just say that family and friends think you have a wonderful marriage. Is it so terrible in the house? do you fight every day? or are you getting the silent treatment?
I say take the small chance that you have been giving, no matter what the reason is, and find a way to make it work. If it is too late, well, only time will tell.