03-19-2012, 12:09 PM
Join Date: May 2011
Location: New York
| | Re: Possible to live with resentment?
Nobody here can tell you that, because nobody knows the two of you. She's succumbed to your wishes and put you #1, what else do you want? You want her to tell you nothing and no one -- even a child with no family to care for her -- is more important than you and your needs, and despite what SHE wanted, that you were right.
I do wonder if the niece experiment might have worked somewhat better if you were there with her, all-in, to making it work... but that's a judgment I can't qualify. But "for better or for worse"....
Get yourselves into joint counseling and get it all on the table - the good ,the bad, and the ugly in an open, safe environment and talk it out. THEN decide. But decide from facts, together, not supposition and expectation of each other. Does SHE even want you back? Do you WANT to go back, or feel like you're 'supposed to' go back?