03-22-2012, 07:45 PM
Join Date: Feb 2012
| | After 2 sessions I am more confused
Last night was our second MC session. Things my husband said last week in the session are the exact opposite of what he said this week. For example, last week he said he wanted to try to work this out and this week he implied that he didn't. In fact when the counselor said to him straight up "It sounds to me like you made up your mind and you are already gone in your marriage is this correct?" His response was well no or umm I don't know yeah maybe! What the heck kind of answer is that. It has been almost a month since he asked for a divorce because HE is unhappy and figured I was too! For the past few weeks he has said he still loves me but he just doesn't know what he wants. Last night he says he isn't sure if he does love me anymore and that no matter what I try or do he just isn't sure it is going to matter. In the whole session it was I, I, I not we or us or even you!
We have two small children ages 7 and 2. Both as special needs as I posted earlier and neither would understand why daddy left. In fact he told me that he sees his life in the next 3 months to 3 years being out west (California or Utah) doing a computer job and if granted custody of the kids would have NO PROBLEM moving 1,200 miles away from me so he can have this "dream job" that will make him more money and make him able to provide better financially for him and the kids. Should I get custody then he would send money every month and see the kids when he sees the kids like summer or breaks. Heck if he came back to town I am supposed to pull them from school just so he can see them.
It really makes me think his mind is made up but HE suggested we go to counseling. I flat out said that Yes it is a waste of everyone's time if he has already made up his mind and the counselor said I was pushing his buttons on purpose! I don't want my family to be the latest statistic and I have made a ton of changes in the past 6 months to try and make life better for everyone in my family. I want to stay married. I still think this is grief from his sister's passing which will be a year on April 4th. I just can't believe that you can wake up one day and say gee I don't feel right and am unhappy to go the next day basically and say I want a divorce! Any advise, suggestions or comments. I don't know if continueing to go to therapy is a wise idea.