04-06-2012, 09:56 AM
Join Date: Mar 2012
| | Re: Wife suddenly does not love me...possible separation, I am in shock!
I have been doing the 180 and some individual counselling which both have resulted in me focusing on only the things that I can control - my fitness, appearance, chores around the house, care of my son etc.
We also went to a second marriage counselling session which had some great advice for how we could get back on path but my wife basically admitted that she does not have the energy in investing on doing that.
This weekend I move to a bedroom downstairs, so we are now separated under one roof so to speak. The strange thing is that I am feeling less desperate and sad but am feeling more confident in myself yet angry at her for wanting to end this. I am kind of at the point that I just want to get on with it and start my new life without her (even though i still love her to death). I have found exercise seems to make me think more logically - I have been doing some pretty intensive cycling. I think I might have to just ask her straight what she wants because I cannot deal with being left dangling like this. I would rather deal with whats coming I think. I cannot picture ever moving on at this stage but the limbo I feel I am in borders on torture - so I feel I am at a point where I can let her go in the hope that she might one day see reason and want to be with me again.