Snelly123

I have been doing the 180 and some individual counselling which both have resulted in me focusing on only the things that I can control - my fitness, appearance, chores around the house, care of my son etc.

We also went to a second marriage counselling session which had some great advice for how we could get back on path but my wife basically admitted that she does not have the energy in investing on doing that.

This weekend I move to a bedroom downstairs, so we are now separated under one roof so to speak. The strange thing is that I am feeling less desperate and sad but am feeling more confident in myself yet angry at her for wanting to end this. I am kind of at the point that I just want to get on with it and start my new life without her (even though i still love her to death). I have found exercise seems to make me think more logically - I have been doing some pretty intensive cycling. I think I might have to just ask her straight what she wants because I cannot deal with being left dangling like this. I would rather deal with whats coming I think. I cannot picture ever moving on at this stage but the limbo I feel I am in borders on torture - so I feel I am at a point where I can let her go in the hope that she might one day see reason and want to be with me again.

cdavis

You should have asked her to move into the other bedroom, not you! Otherwise keep up your good work. Your not going to get quick results so just hang in there, its going to be difficult just suck it up. Don't ask her want she wants, just deal with it. Be the husband any wife would never leave. Keep up fitness work and concentrate on personal improvement.

the guy

I just want to confirm that you are in a very good place right now. It may not seem like it but once she sees you moving on she will think twice.

In addition , until your wife stops all contact with her boy friend then MC mean nothing to her. But that is her choice and in making the wrong choice she will lose you.

So stay confident and fake it until you make it. Hopefuly soon she will see that the grass isn't greener and will come to her senses and recommit to healthy fit guy and a wonderful son.

It will be a matter of time when the affiar breaks off,and its just a matter time if you and your boy will be around before some hot cycle chick picks you up.

Stay strong, right now the indifference you offer your wife may bring her out of the affair fog. This indifference may be the signal that she needs to see what she is about to lose if she continues.

bandit.45

Treat her like furniture or a house plant. No small talk or conversation unless it is about your son. If she wants to tell you about her day, tell her to call her boyfriend and talk to him. Then walk away.

This is the approach you should have with her every day.
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ferndog

He is gone
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