03-30-2012, 08:22 PM
Join Date: Mar 2012
| | I think he cheated and is ashamed of me
My husband and I have been together for 3 years, married for 6 months. I just feel like he is ashamed of me. My husband joined the army in October '09 and left for basic in January '10. Before he left, he used to take me out and "show me off" he would always hold my hand and kiss my cheek and just be loving in public. A couple months after he came back from basic, I saw him talking to his ex girlfriend on myspace (I didn't snoop, they left comments on each others' page). She was telling him that she's so proud of him and he replied that nobody is ever proud of him or supports him like that. That is obviously a lie and it pissed me off. They also made plans to hang out and I told him not to because it made me uncomfortable. He still went and lied about it, I had to find out from my sister(she's friends with the girl) He was constantly ignoring me and I felt he only wanted to see me when he wanted to. He then got stationed in Washington so we had a long distance relationship for a year and a half. During that time he constantly told me he was alone and didn't talk to me, especially girls, and always made me feel guilty for hanging out with my friends. I came to find out that he had been hanging out with his friends and drinking. 2 months into our marriage I found him going through my message and he got really mad and jealous because I told my sister one of his friends was cute for her.
4 months later I went through his phone after we ha a fight and he left. He was messaging a girl he used to have feelings for just 5 months before we were married. They made plans to hang out and they were talking like they had seen each other multiple times and like they were in love. He'd always tell me that when he came home, he'd only see his family and me. Since he's joined the army he was never really touchy-feely with me in public. Now after we're married, he walks ahead of me or behind me in public, he never wants to take me out, if I try to hold his hand in public he moves away and looks at me weird. His friends are always inviting us out but he'll make excuses like "My wife doesn't wanna go an apparently that means I can't go either". It always makes me so mad. I recently went through his phone and facebook because this girl keeps trying to contact him and I found and old message of theirs. About a year ago she had gone to his house and something happened. In the message she said she wanted to see him again and he told her that he thought it would awkward because of what happened the last time an she told him that she really wanted to pick up where they left off and finish what they started. I think he cheated on me as well.
What do you think? If he's cheated on me then I need to leave him, but I need advice before because I don't want to be paranoid. Help me, please!
P.s. Sorry for the long story