07-10-2012, 11:09 AM
Join Date: Apr 2012
| | DO you stay with a woman who admittedly does not love you?
OK folks,,,,, struggling here. Been married 25 years. Have great 11 year old son. There has been NO intimacy whatsoever in well over THREE years ,,,,, and it was rare in the years before that. It occurred to me in the Fall of 2010 after her dad passed and I comforted her and said "I love you," when she responded, "Yeah, ok," that she HAS NOT tol me that she loves me in over TWENTY years!. Last August (2011) we had a confrontation of this issue (Yes communication IS a problem) and she confirmed that she does not love me.
Ive been struggling for nearly a year with this and have sought counsel. I love my son and was scared to be away from him and hurt him in any way.
Recently I have found a place to move to that is close and where my son could be with me half the time (already agreed to) and i need to make the decision. Ive recently had a chat with him about it and he actually knows things are wrong (kids aren't stupid). He told me that it would be "cool" to live with me part of the time in a condo. I think he understands.
The problem is that now that I'm near a decision to move on and live (and there is someone of interest that I would "date") I'm petrified to do it. It makes me nauseous to think that I won't be home.
I know that if I elect to stay that you can not MAKE someone love you never mind be intimate (and she states that she is DONE with that stuff). I just feel I still love her and can't bear to be away from my son half the time.
The "interested" woman who is lovely and could be someone that would make life happier will NOT be around forever. Am I a fool? Should I stay or should I go???? Thanks!!