Originally Posted by Girlygirl1234
So, your ex has BPD? Is it the same thing as being a sociopath though? I dont honestly believe the things he tells me I am.. It is just frustrating because he has the nerve to tell me I have a problem. He has been bringing up the fact that I left him OVER AND OVER since it happened. All I hear lately is "You are the one who left me".. "You dont leave somebody you love".. "All you like to do it hurt me, you cant love me after all the pain you have put me through..". We got into an argument the other night, and he took a picture and hit himself over the head with it and got glass everywhere. Than, he took his gun and said he was going to kill himself.. AND IM THE CRAZY ONE? He screamed and yelled so loud that night, and he also crawled up in a ball on the floor and cried so hard.. yet I am crazy!
No, as Pidge70 says it is not the same as being a Sociopath!
Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder and BPD traits...
(Look at BPD Family website for lots of help and info) is that:
They have problems in maintaining stable relationships.
They 'flip' from one minute loving you then hating you.
They fly into uncontrollable rages within seconds and the smallest of triggers will set them off.
They are never to blame for any of their problems...they will always put the blame on someone else, usually their partner.
They can be very impulsive...spending money, or have some form of addiction.... alcohol, drugs, gambling.
They have a very black and white way at looking at things.
They have a major fear of abandoment.
Their inner turmoil apparently stems from a very troubled childhood.... there is a lot more to be said about this if you search on line about BPD. Also getting them into therapy is difficult because they will rarely admit to having a problem.
There 9 traits I have not mentioned them all and I have only given a brief description of those above.
It seems that your partner could be exhibiting signs of BPD
If you can download a copy of the Book.... Walking on Eggshells.. Living with a Borderline Personality...this can help explain the disorder
My ex screamed like I have never heard another human being scream before and thumped himself in the head. The next minute he would be fine and I was left reeling from the verbal and emotional abuse and could not recover quickly from it.... often he had no recollection of it happening.... but if he did it was a totally different version to the one I witnessed....but always the blame was put on me.
When he is 'normal' you could not wish to meet a nicer man and that is the difficulty because leaving him was very difficult. I cry everyday and I mean sob my heart out for the loss of the man I first knew...I miss him so much but I do not have the courage or strength to go back.
I hope some of this information is of help.
Take Care and good luck