Serious confession made to me, what do I do??
Im almost 30 years old, male, and I am crying as I type this. I need help, serious answers only please. My soon to be wife made a confession to me earlier today. We have been together almost a year, wedding date in September. Her parents are devout Baptists, and I got their blessing for marriage.
My soon to be wife still lives with parents, has a farm to maintained and does that as help to her parents. Her parents have a friend who brings their son down every summer so he can get away from his home state. He is 14 currently. He is currently down and lately I have noticed tension between them and just a very weird feeling I had in my gut. She has known him since he was born. She made the confession to me that last summer before she met me, he was down for the summer and 13 at the time. She was working so many hours, under a lot of stress, and not thinking clearly. He had been pressing her for Sexual activity as any 13 year old boy would. Apparently she let him finger her about 4 different times throughout last summer. She said she had been drinking coolers at the time and wasn't thinking clearly.
I am devastated, have been crying for hours now, and texting her telling her how I feel. I don't know what to do here! I love her but at the same time I'm disgusted. We've already put tons of money into the wedding. Invitations have already been sent out. How can something like this be repaired?
After this revelation, I am still in pure shock. We have since went seperate ways to think. We are talking via text because I am too upset to talk on the phone.
What was going through her mind??? She says there was no Sexual attraction, she was overworked and stressed out, and wasn't thinking clearly. I am torn, even though it happened before we met, I am at a loss as to what was going through her head, why she allowed him to do it, I even question if I'm really her first love, it feels like the trust is gone.