Wife stayed the night at another man's home

SabrinaBlue · 05-01-2012, 08:25 AM

Frankly, there is no good reason for her to have hung out with the other guy. If she was truly so lonely, she could've sought company with other women - or couples. But another guy? No. Especially not with alcohol involved.

You're right to be skeptical of her story.

So, where do you go from here? You've given your relationship a month's break. Do you really think that's enough time to make a decision? Or have you already made it, and you want validation?

unbelievable · 05-01-2012, 08:55 AM

She can't be a faithful wife for 18 months without putting you in this position? Curb time! There's no legitimate reason for her to hang out privately with any dude. She didn't go over there to play bingo and if she thought she wasn't going to be having sex or be hit on, she's too stupid to be married to. You are thousands of miles away, likely in a hostile fire area. She discussed her intentions and you made it clear that it bothered you greatly (because you're sane). She went anyway. She's indifferent to your needs, careless with her reputation and her's. Her "crashed on the couch" story is about as believable as The Easter Bunny.

unbelievable · 05-01-2012, 09:51 AM

If you've got joint accounts, close them. If you're sending money home, reduce it to the minimum required by law until you can ditch her. Put the savings in the bank and buy yourself a Harley. They don't go out with other guys. They don't give you lame excuses. When you're away, they'll wait faithfully in the garage. When you want them between your legs, they'll never complain or push you away. They'll perform the same after you buy them as they did on the test ride.

I'mInLoveWithMyHubby · 05-01-2012, 10:02 AM

A married woman in my opinion should never "hang out" with other men period!

My husband and I do not have casual friendships with the opposite sex. Never would one of us hang out with them let alone spend the night.

Your wife has no respect for you. I bet she cheated on you. It will eventually come out. I personally would consider this as a deal breaker!

Toffer · 05-01-2012, 02:42 PM

Move forward with the polygraph regardless of whatever else she admits to. Many a confession has been made in the parking lot of the polygraph place!

As others have said, I would still have MAJOR doubts about going forward in life with this person. She has (at the very least) shown complete disrespect and contempt for you by going to this dude's place anyway

Whatever you do, do not have children with this woman until you know what you're going to do with this marriage.

ArmyofJuan · 05-01-2012, 02:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by poker_face_joe

She told me the reason she went to visit him was because she was lonely that I had been gone for 2 months and was going to be gone another month and she needed someone to talk to.

She misspelled "horny".

Why didn`t she not find a WOMAN friend instead of someone with a bad rep? She knew what she was doing, if she needed someone to hang with she should have found a girlfriend not some guy you disapprove of.