I know where you're coming from.
3 children, overburdened. Don't have any me time, can't do what I want to do anymore. Always make plans to go out and do something but the kids come up and have to be taken care of 1st.
Losing your identity, stuck in a rut being a mom and you want to be able to be free and go where you want to go, do what you want to do.
Love the family but it's all weighing you down like a big rock and you're sinking to the bottom of the deepest ocean.
Been there and still there. But I've had to buck up and do what's right for my kids. Seeing my little girls happy and smiling at me (although they are the most rotten 3 little girls in the entire world, my 3 little monsters from hell is what I call them since they're spoiled rotten from my parents) is what keeps my sanity.
When I hear them smile and run up to me yelling, daddy, daddy, daddy and giving me a big hug that makes my day. Yes, they drive me nuts and I want to stick my head in the ground and drop a 2 ton car on it but those little things keep me going.
Since our kids, we have our yearly Vegas trip and I get 2 months free of the kids since the wife takes them home to her parents back east. But no matter how bad they are or how much they want me to throw myself off the highest building on this planet, all it takes is a big hug and kiss to make all those things go away.
Then, they'll get married and won't be my problem anymore and the wife and I can finally go back to vacationing alone and enjoying ourselves. Unless the kids have children early then I know my wife.........Oh well, just another thing to look forward to...
I'll take the daddy I love you any day of the week over me missing out on life. Because my kids are my life right now, and I guess the wife too