05-23-2012, 05:27 AM
Join Date: Nov 2010
| | Re: Got to get out
Well... Out of 72 months, your wife has likely been a stay at home mom for 36, and pregnant for 9. Total of 45. Then she's worked for 20, accounting for 65 out of 72 months. While not ideal, it doesn't seem like the end of the world, or worth divorcing over. If she only makes $1000 per month, does that even cover child care while she's working, much less other work related expenses? Gas, clothes, etc?
If you want out, then do what you need to do. Realize that you likely WILL be supporting your child's time with her mother though. Speak to a lawyer, and find out what your rights and obligations will be. Make sure you can cover your obligations financially. After that, it's up to her to start pulling up her socks to help herself.
I left my marriage in February of 2011. I made about 90% of our family income; for the first 6 or even 7 years of the kids' lives, it was 100%, as we wanted my wife to have the opportunity to be at home with them. Personally, I would have preferred if she took in some other kids in a day home type environment like her sister did, but never pushed that too hard. But once I separated, I kept depositing the equivalent to what my child and spousal support payments will be into her account, even though we don't have a formal agreement. Seems like the least I can do, and any squabbling would simply result in the same way, but with legal expenses on top.
I did support her more heavily through an initial time of unemployment, but tried to make it clear this wasn't going to continue. But my kids are in school full time, and are old enough to be home on their own for awhile...
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