I am not really sure where to start. I guess from the beginning. I met my husband online. We talked for quite awhile before meeting. I found prior to actually meeting him that my boss at the time knew him and said he was ok. That was a load off my mind. Right from the beginning we were great together. We were inseparable and got along great, at first. I knew from the beginning that his mom lived with him but after the first year of being together I thought she would realize that we were together and I wasn't going anywhere that she would look for her own place. She didn't and still lives with us 4 years later.
I have a 12 year from a previous relationship. I know she has her problems but she is still my daughter and I got so sick and tired of always protecting her against him. He wasn't physically abusive but said some nasty things to her. She hasn't always lived with me. She stayed with my mom when I relocated for a job and didn't want to move and I didn't want to force her. In the end, she made up a bunch of lies so that everyone was so angry at all of us. She now lives back with her because that is where she is happy.
As I stated, in the beginning everything was great. Then we had our own child together, I had a hysterectomy and he wanted more kids, then I got a new job and work full time days, and he owns his own business. He expects me to work all day, and go do his paperwork at night. He took all my paychecks at first, but I stopped that. I try talking to him because he now gets verbally abusive and treats me like an animal. Like I have no feelings. The man has never stated he loved me unless I begged him to open up about his feelings. But I am tired of having to do. He knows I was going to leave. He was great for a few months and now everything is back normal.
The other day topped it all off. He said he wanted to get the business going full force so I didn't have to work. I told him that I wanted to work, that it wasn't just a job but a career for me. The only thing he said (again) was that I wouldn't have to work. He just don't understand.
I have caught him since we have been married having a personal add on adultfriendfinder.com with nude pictures of himself. When I confronted him, very calmly I might add, he said it was a joke. He hid it from me, how could it have been a joke. I don't trust him since then. And I found, recently, another yahoo id that I didn't know about. The AFF ad said he was married but looking for a discrete relationship.
I know half of this doesn't make sense but I don't know what to do anymore. I have tried for 2 years to try and get back what we had. But nothing has worked. I am at my witts end. If it wasn't for our 2 year old I would have left a long time ago.
Please help me try to understand.
I have a 12 year from a previous relationship. I know she has her problems but she is still my daughter and I got so sick and tired of always protecting her against him. He wasn't physically abusive but said some nasty things to her. She hasn't always lived with me. She stayed with my mom when I relocated for a job and didn't want to move and I didn't want to force her. In the end, she made up a bunch of lies so that everyone was so angry at all of us. She now lives back with her because that is where she is happy.
As I stated, in the beginning everything was great. Then we had our own child together, I had a hysterectomy and he wanted more kids, then I got a new job and work full time days, and he owns his own business. He expects me to work all day, and go do his paperwork at night. He took all my paychecks at first, but I stopped that. I try talking to him because he now gets verbally abusive and treats me like an animal. Like I have no feelings. The man has never stated he loved me unless I begged him to open up about his feelings. But I am tired of having to do. He knows I was going to leave. He was great for a few months and now everything is back normal.
The other day topped it all off. He said he wanted to get the business going full force so I didn't have to work. I told him that I wanted to work, that it wasn't just a job but a career for me. The only thing he said (again) was that I wouldn't have to work. He just don't understand.
I have caught him since we have been married having a personal add on adultfriendfinder.com with nude pictures of himself. When I confronted him, very calmly I might add, he said it was a joke. He hid it from me, how could it have been a joke. I don't trust him since then. And I found, recently, another yahoo id that I didn't know about. The AFF ad said he was married but looking for a discrete relationship.
I know half of this doesn't make sense but I don't know what to do anymore. I have tried for 2 years to try and get back what we had. But nothing has worked. I am at my witts end. If it wasn't for our 2 year old I would have left a long time ago.
Please help me try to understand.